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Title: Not good...but we are doing okay
Post by: Curval on January 23, 2002, 12:21:12 PM

Unfortunately I don't have good news.

My wife lost the baby.

We are now back home after almost a week of hell in Boston...thank God we have two beautiful kids who are healthy and who are the reason we have not totally broken down over this.

Thanks for all of your thoughts and well wishes....things happen for a reason...I hope we can figure out what that reason actually is..

Curval

Title: Not good...but we are doing okay
Post by: Ripsnort on January 23, 2002, 12:36:38 PM

Curval, my deepest sympathy for you and your family.  Give them lil ones an extra hug tonight when you put them to bed.

Title: Not good...but we are doing okay
Post by: Udie at Work on January 23, 2002, 12:47:32 PM

Truely sorry to hear this Curval :(

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Post by: miko2d on January 23, 2002, 12:50:57 PM

My wife and I are very sorry to hear that.

 Do not dwell on figuring out the reasons. Your future does not depend on it. Go on with your life.
 In such matters women often tend to think that it is somehow their fault, however illogical, and torture themselves. With your great family it is less likely but still watch for it.

 miko

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Post by: midnight Target on January 23, 2002, 12:51:25 PM

So sorry Curval. We need more parents who care as much as you.

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Post by: skernsk on January 23, 2002, 01:11:09 PM

Curval.  I'm very sorry to hear this bad news.  My wife had a miscarriage last year and it's devastating.  

 :(

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Post by: Swoop on January 23, 2002, 01:13:06 PM

:(

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Post by: Nifty on January 23, 2002, 01:32:50 PM

my sympathies, Curval.  :(

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Post by: Thrawn on January 23, 2002, 03:58:34 PM

Sorry Curval. :(

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Post by: Eagler on January 23, 2002, 04:03:11 PM

sorry for your loss

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Post by: SirLoin on January 23, 2002, 04:05:27 PM

:(Sorry to hear that.. You have a family..Cherish..:)

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Post by: Kieran on January 23, 2002, 04:26:57 PM

Prayers to you and your family.

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Post by: Dune on January 23, 2002, 04:36:41 PM

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.  Prayers to you and your family.

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Post by: funkedup on January 23, 2002, 04:40:40 PM

Sorry to hear that Curval.  Best wishes to you and your family.

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Post by: Maverick on January 23, 2002, 04:42:06 PM

Sorry Curvall. Please remember that time will help the hurt and spend extra time will all your family.

Mav

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Post by: straffo on January 23, 2002, 04:49:27 PM

:(

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Post by: the_hegemon on January 23, 2002, 04:54:06 PM

:(

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Post by: Bluefish on January 23, 2002, 04:56:10 PM

Truly sorry Curval; my condolences and prayers for you and your family.:(

Title: Deep symphaties Curval
Post by: Animal on January 23, 2002, 06:20:55 PM

You have to be strong for your wife in these times, she will need your support now more than ever

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Post by: Vermillion on January 23, 2002, 09:46:04 PM

Damn  :(

I'm so sorry Curval.

Title: Not good...but we are doing okay
Post by: Curval on January 23, 2002, 09:46:20 PM

Thank you all for your thoughts...gonna go give my littlest his last bottle for the night....the wife is curled up with my older boy...really cute to see...I just flew for a while...helped me get my mind off things for an hour or two...

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Post by: Toad on January 23, 2002, 09:49:27 PM

Very sorry to hear it, my condolences. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

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Post by: Dinger on January 23, 2002, 11:42:43 PM

Ouch Curval.  My sincerest condolences to you and yours.

:(

Dinger/CFIT

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Post by: hblair on January 24, 2002, 12:16:36 AM

Thoughts and prayers...

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Post by: pimpjoe on January 24, 2002, 01:14:31 AM

i know how ya feel:(

sorry to hear that happen:(

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Post by: Pepe on January 24, 2002, 03:29:11 AM

:(

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Post by: mrsid2 on January 24, 2002, 03:39:54 AM

My sympathies also.

My first child made us run to the hospital a dozen times in scare of miscarriage.

I guess the only thing worse than the anticipation is it actually happening.

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Post by: Ripsnort on January 24, 2002, 07:47:42 AM

Alittle story about my wifes and my experience:

In 1993, we started to "try" to have a family, ie, she went off the pill. Over the next 2 years, 3 miscarriges later.. (one that was 2nd term!) we began to realize that we may not be able to have children.  The wife was really bummed out, so one day I came home with 6 dozen roses (got them relatively cheap via an aquaintence in the flower business) and a card that said "TO every cloud there is a silver lining, if we are fortunate to have children one day, we'll be rich with love! If we are unable to have children, we'll just be PLAIN RICH!".  She laughed for a good 5 min.  10 months later our first child was born. :D:D

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Post by: CyranoAH on January 24, 2002, 09:06:38 AM

:(

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Post by: Curval on January 24, 2002, 09:59:01 AM

Rip...

Wow....those must have been some tough times for you and your wife.  Lana and I feel very fortunate that this didn't happen to us on our first attempt at having a child....I would have been a nervous wreck on subsequent attempts.

The only issue now is going to be whether we will actually try again.  We are still waiting for some test results to determine the odds of a re-occurance...but from what the doctors say it appears unlikely.

Without getting into the details of what happened the reasons behind it are wrapped up in chromosome donation..

When a couple have a child 23 chromosomes are donated by each parent..22 go to the physical makeup of the child and the 23rd determines the sex of the baby.  Somehow one of us donated an extra chromosome13, which is one of the worst case senarios.  The genetic coding was screwed up from the beginning and the baby had severe developmental and physical problems.  The doctors were surprised that she was able to carry the child as long as she did....the chance of life for the child was zero percent even if it made it to full term.

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Post by: fd ski on January 24, 2002, 09:59:42 AM

:(

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Post by: indian on January 24, 2002, 10:46:59 AM

:eek:   Sad news.  Comfort wife shell need it alot.

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Post by: R4M on January 24, 2002, 02:34:56 PM

:(

Title: Sincerest sympathies curv
Post by: gavor on January 24, 2002, 10:45:37 PM

:(. hang in there mate. if you decide to try again, best of luck. Fortune smiles on the brave ;)