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General Forums => The O' Club => Topic started by: Eaglecz on July 15, 2002, 12:32:14 PM
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I didnt get it....
I just hear another story about divorce.
Im trying to look at it from all points of view, but can find any sense.
When 2 people get married, both of them had some crappy relationship before, why the diddly do they
expecting somethink like faithfulness? They both did BS before, so why are people so
surprised when their mate is unfaithfulness ? Are they realy so conceited? Why do people divorce because unfaithful?
I see kind of hypocracy in divorce, when nobody of them was virgin before their relationship.
Hehe and most funny is that most of them have balls to call me naive lol
Does it sound logicaly to you ?
Whats your point of view ?
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why get married if you're going to cheat?
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why should somebody start relationship with cheater ?
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a new leaf?
everyone can change - some for the better, some for the worse
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so eagler you prefer to get married before you know the other...
when you are answering, try to be more exact please
im pretty sure that local word for relation ship and your is very diffrent
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Originally posted by Eaglecz
why should somebody start relationship with cheater ?
I wouldn't, but there are plenty of people here in America that are married to the spouse they stole from somebody else. To me that gets down to the most basic type of trust in a relationship....
Like Eagler said though, people can and do change....
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Originally posted by Eaglecz
why should somebody start relationship with cheater ?
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I give you the Jerry Springer show..
don't know why but there are a hell of a lot of them!
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Originally posted by Eaglecz
so eagler you prefer to get married before you know the other...
when you are answering, try to be more exact please
im pretty sure that local word for relation ship and your is very diffrent
when do you "know the other"?
a year, 5 years, never?
I personally couldn't marry a woman who cheated even if she cheated with me for the reasons you stated. I find it amazing when the cheating spouse marries the cheating spouse she/he was cheating with. I would think the level of trust would be suspect <- with good reason.
I just stated in my first post they must get married thinking they have/will change and "this time" it is "true love" and they will be faithful.
As far as marriage goes, its a struggle most do not have the will to see through as divorce rate is what around 70% now?
Time to "know the other " is only one ingredient to a successful marriage. Understanding and maturity are two biggies too...
I was a lucky kid (19) when I found my soulmate. We dated almosted 2 years (high school/college) but honestly we did not "know" each other. Thought we did.
Time changes all, surviving those changes is the battle.
Last Wed, July 10th was our 24th anniversary.
I know friends who waited until mid/late 20's and are now on their 2nd/3rd try at marriage.
It ain't easy, but it can be done :)
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nice one eagler
be back later
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Congrats Eagler!
I married my best friend, and she hers...its easy with the right person.
Reminds me of an email I was priveleged to intercept on the FDB website about Creamo and his male..er Mail order bride:
Creamo: "This mail-(or is it male?)order bride discussion intrigued me so I thought I'd give it a try. I procured a catalog from a reputable dealer, Sears, and proceeded to browse through it.
I found many women to my liking but narrowed it down to three. I couldn't decide, so I thought, 'What the heck, I'll take all three'. I called in my order:
ME: Hello Sears, I'd like to order two from page 14 and one from page 37.
CLERK: Very good sir. We'll have your order shipped out tomorrow.
ME: Great!
CLERK: What size would you like?
ME(excitedly): They come in different sizes?
CLERK: Uh, yes. And colors too.
ME(barely able to control myself): Wow! Hmmm. I'll take them just the way
they look in the catalog. How much more would it be if you also include
the outfits they're wearing?
CLERK: Excuse me, sir?
ME(impatiently): What's the problem? I want the women and the outfits
they're wearing, can't you handle that?
CLERK(chuckling): Oh, sir! We can't sell you the outfits AND the models!
ME: Do you mean the models and the outfits are separate?
CLERK: Yes, of course.
ME: Ok, then just send me the women, keep the outfits.
CLERK(sternly): Sir, I don't know what you *think* we are but we are a
department store dealing in legitimate merchandise.
ME(contritely): Um, uh, I knew that.
CLERK: Now, do you want what you ordered or was this just an infantile
joke?
ME(embarassedly): Oh no! As I said two from page 14 and one from page 37.
CLERK(tersely): Thank you sir. Will that be COD or charge?
ME(in a low murmur): Charge.....
Well, two days later I'm the proud owner of a bra and two pieces of
lingerie and I guess I still don't understand this mail-order bride stuff."
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lol rip :)
btw it seems to me that current community do publicity of promiscuid loosers instead of decent,patient people ....
is it common preasure or only my mad phantasy ?
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Fidelity is a good yardstick for character. Just look at clinton.
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Fidelity is a good yardstick for character. just look at
newt gingrich (serial adulterer)
rush limbaugh (serial adulterer)
rudi guiliani (wanted his mistress to be able to move into gracie mansion while his wife was still there)
mark churmura (married pro-football player that wouldn't go to WH cause he didn't like clintons morals, later caught with high school girls in a hot-tub)
j.c. watts (repub. congressman from oklahoma, multiple out-of-wedlock children. he is also quoted as saying 'character is doing the right thing even when noone is looking'. i guess he knocked-up those women in the dark.)
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28 years and no end in sight.
It does take work. And understanding. And lots of other things.
But it's worth it. Especially when the chips are down and the world is looking pretty bleak.
Nice to know there's somebody standing with you.
:D
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Rush Limbaugh?? lol. I thought he'd only been married a couple of years.
Anyway....
"Dear Abby,
My husband is a lying cheat. He tells me he loves me, but he has cheated our entire marriage. He is a good provider and has many friends and supporters. They know he is a lying cheat, but they just avoid the issue. He is a hard worker but many of his co-workers are leery of him. Every time he gets caught, he denies it all. Then he admits that he was wrong and begs me to forgive him. This has been going on for so long, everyone in town knows he is a cheat. I don't know what to do.
Signed,Frustrated
Dear Frustrated
You should dump him. Now that you are finally a New York Senator, you don't need him anymore."
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if it were the early 1890's i reckon I would take my pearl handled six shooter and blow my ex wife's new husband's head clean off. not for having her...but for taking her...and the truly twisted thing is this....................i am 10x better off without her....
marriage is not worth the hassle...
do i sound bitter???:(
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Originally posted by N1kPaz
if it were the early 1890's i reckon I would take my pearl handled six shooter and blow my ex wife's new husband's head clean off. not for having her...but for taking her...and the truly twisted thing is this....................i am 10x better off without her....
marriage is not worth the hassle...
do i sound bitter???:(
Good thing it's not the 1890's eh N1kPaz? Well, if you're better off but still wanna piss'em off... just send them a thank-you note LOL! Sounds like they really have a marriage made to last.
Hey I've been married 14yrs and ... well my opinion now is there is NO WAY IN HELL I would do it again. Probably would, but it would be a very long process.
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Most human actions have benefits on one side and cost and associated risks on the other side. Same with marriage.
There may be plenty of reasons to marry a person you suspect of cheating.
Like attraction.
Like companionship vs. staying alone.
Like getting good genes for your kids - intelligence, health and - yes - attractiveness to the opposite sex (how else would you be successfull cheater?).
Not that my wife cheats, but there is very little I could not forgive her for the baby she gave me. If she gives me couple more like that I would consider it a good deal no matter what she did - even kill me.
miko
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Well Eaglecz... my father left my mother for another woman after being married for 19 years.
It's been 22 years and he's still married to that "other woman."
I don't believe that life-long marriage is right for everyone. Failed or aborted marriages in someone's past doesn't necessarily mean that they are a bad partner.
FWIW... I've been married 19 years.
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I married the first time based on what the "little head" told me. The first/ex Mrs. Tahgut was runner up Miss Raging Waters. The only good thing I got out of that deal was 2 beautiful daughters.
The new improved Mrs. Tahgut is not only beautiful, she is my best friend. Live and learn. (10 yrs. 1st time around, 10 yrs. and counting with current Mrs.)
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marriage is over-rated. been divorced for 17 years.
there are 3 sentences i never hear...
'where are you going?'
'where have you been?'
'turn off the computer and cut the grass!'
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Originally posted by KG45
marriage is over-rated. been divorced for 17 years.
there are 3 sentences i never hear...
Any kids?
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he probably never hears "are we there yet?" either...
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Originally posted by Holden McGroin
he probably never hears "are we there yet?" either...
rofl!
Looks like all those married men here gave access to this bbs to their respective wives...yuk *shivers*
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miko2d:
negatory on the kids. i likes my peace and quiet and AH
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