Sounds like both of you are suffering from stick spikes and/or not enough scaling of elevator, i.e. start low and increase gradually to 100%. If you have your stick set to start input from say 50% going up from there, any little movement from center is gonna give you 50% of travel! At hi speeds, this will be deadly. Stick spiking could also cause this. You have say 15% control deflection input and it spikes to 50% or higher all of a sudden could cause the same failure at hi speeds. Just some thoughts, I regularly fly the 51 and can safely pull out at 500 mph with no problems, but I have to be careful, very little stick input! Using trim is a better solution, but sometimes isn't fast enough. I had a few wing failures before the last update, haven't had one since they upped the stress settings.
Using a little dampener might also help if you tend to over control, which will allow you to move your stick more before any input occurs. If your stick is sloppy around the center you may need to adjust the deadband, that is if you can move it and not see any control input occuring immediately.
Hope this helps
ts
btw, I haven't seen the film yet either.
[This message has been edited by tshred (edited 01-20-2000).]