I enjoyed reading your post.
Most of my enjoyment of music is entirely the instruments. To tell you the truth, I hardly ever listen to any of the words at all, no matter what the genre is. And when I finally do realize what some of it says I think "Oh my gosh! I can't believe I just heard that" even though I'd already listened to it 20 - 30 times.
On the whole ~ I am a fuddy-duddy... who doesn't drink... drives her kids around to football practice while listening to old-lady music, forces them out of bed on sundays for church, still sits with them while they do homework, monitors their my-space pages for obsenities, tells them I want to meet all their little friends & just generally spending my time doing all that annoying "Mom" stuff.
So around the house, I stick to the stuff that makes my family yawn (josh groban, journey, vivaldi). It's quiet & pleasant. But sometimes (just sometimes) I will pull out a metallica or megadeth (
*not* rust in peace... countdown to extinction) cd & pop it into the stereo.
It's a nice departure from what I usually listen to. Plus, if I listen to it when I clean, I get the work done in about half the time.