security essentials was probably doing a boot up scan at the time eset was trying to load. it's not advisable to run more than one anti-virus on your system but, if you're running windows 7 or vista, you will have windows defender, windows security essentials (if you downloaded it) and whatever anti-virus you installed. look under scheduled tasks and disable any scheduled scans for defender and security essentials that you find.
also, if you haven't done it already, turn off windows update in the control panel, then stop the service and set it to manual start. that way you can run updates when you want to without the system kicking off the process when you really don't want it.