Please consider flying in the CT. It seems to me its close to the flying environment from the past you want to recapture.
Last night there were 50+ people in the CT, and there were multiple, easy-to-find fights, large and small. I myself winged for about an hour with Drunky, a helluva stick I might add, and together we spent the better part of the evening engaged with 3-4 allied P-38s and 51s, very competently flown and willing to mix it up. One 2v2 we had must have lasted 15 minutes at least.
The CT is mostly regulars who greet and salute each other, and the chat on 1 is generally pleasant and respectful (except for Shane, the resident smack talker, but everybody expects it from him).
I'm not saying its perfect, there are drawbacks. But its got the feel of the beta community to it, and the plane matchups and side balance have been very good recently. Tonight begins a week of early-1944 NW Europe action. I do think you'd enjoy iy if you tried it and stuck with it long enough to get to know some of the regulars.