For starters, fly how you want to. That said, there are many styles and some are down right boring.
Are you a typical 190 pilot; pick, BnZ, and never get in a position of inferiority?
or
Are you a typical spit5 pilot; with incredible banks, neg G, and complaining when people don't turn with you and instead fly on through?
It is all subjective... if you're looking for acceptance, you'll only receive it from people who have the same flying style.
Myself, I'm a combination of the 2 above roles in my P38, depending on what the enema is flying.