how do you cope

[mason22]

Udie,

Fatty, Me, Exile, Gordo, Trimmer are all here in austin.

Get in touch if you need company man!

[Udie]

Originally posted by mason22:
Udie,

Fatty, Me, Exile, Gordo, Trimmer are all here in austin.

Get in touch if you need company man!

 I might take you up on that one night this week.  After the funeral Wednesday I'm off for the rest of the week.  I'll keep in tough.

 To the rest of you guys    I'm finding that being here at work actually hurts >< that much less than being at home alone. Things will get better emotionaly I know, but for now I must sulk...

[Maverick]

Udie,

Sorry to hear that you're hurting but that just means you are open enough to care about another person. You can make it through, it will take some time. Try to stay busy for a few days then take some time to reflect on what your buddy meant to you. Remember the good times and the bad as well. Firm it up in your memory to keep with you so you can "consult" him when you need to. He isn't all gone as long as you remember him and can learn from the experiance.

A final note about this. Use this experiance and time to realize what it is you have in that gift of life. It is always short, no matter what the years may have. Use the time as best you can. It isn't what they have done that most regret at the end, it's what they SHOULD and COULD have done that many regret. Don't let the one irreplaceable and non salvageable resource you have, time, go to waste. Use it, spend it but most of all LIVE IT as a life, not a spectator sport.

Thoughts and prayers,

Mav

[capt. apathy]

sorry about your loss.
what animal said worked for me.
 a couple years ago my best freind, who i also worked with took his own life. when i was told my knees buckled and i couldn't stand. after the funeral some other freinds, his family and I got together for the wake, many of us got blind stinking drunk, played loud music and talked about all the great times we had with him.  by the time the hangover was through i felt alot better.  it's been a couple years and i still get sad/mad with little warnning when something reminds me of him. but you just got to apreciate the good times and move on.

[Tac]

Talk to your loved ones about the good things about your friend. Memories are a good place to start. I've been in your position many times unfortunately.

My condolences man, keep his memory alive and smile.

<S>

[MrBill]

I do not think there is a single answer that will work for every person.   I lost one of my foster sons almost a year ago, (traffic accident) and I couldn't even cry, I was just numb for a couple months.  40 years ago my best buddy died in my arms, I didn't know how to react then either, just locked and loaded and looked for some pay back.
 Hang in there, the hurt will fade.
 But as long as you remember, they are with you, focus on the good times.

 Condolences.

[Toad]

Life's a circle, Udie.

Sunrise to sundown... followed by Sunrise.

Spring, Summer, Fall, Winter.. followed by Spring.

You'll "see" him again.

Remember the good times and laugh a lot.