Author Topic: This guy is gettin it! hard (Read 1169 times)

Sikboy · « **Reply #30 on:** July 25, 2007, 12:51:53 PM »

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Originally posted by Maverick
Gunslinger I hope you read this as it is the unvarnished truth. No matter what she spent you won't get any of it back and your records won't matter a whit. If you are in a community property state all assets are shared including ALL the money. Once the money is gone YOU will share the debt which means she got the fun of spending it but won't have to pay for all of it. You will end up paying for a BUNCH of HER spending.

Close ALL bank accounts. Freeze ALL joint credit accounts. Separate your pay into an account in YOUR name only. If she wants a bank card she must get it in her name. Get a freaking lawyer and get a court order to stop her spending in joint activities.

You see Gunslinger, when a truth is so fundamental that even Maverick and Sikboy agree, it's probably a good idea to accept it.

The money you seem to have lost out on already would have been more than enough for a retainer on a very good attorney.

-Sik

Maverick · « **Reply #31 on:** July 25, 2007, 01:52:47 PM »

Sikboy,

Be nice, you're just being coy!

Sikboy · « **Reply #32 on:** July 25, 2007, 02:10:11 PM »

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Originally posted by Maverick
Sikboy,

Be nice, you're just being coy!

Lol, I'm tellin' ya Mav... kids these days.

-Sik

Gunslinger · « **Reply #33 on:** July 25, 2007, 08:41:08 PM »

I've been trying to get a lawyer for the past month and a half. The problem lies in the fact that my income used to be suppimented by hers.

Now I'm paying 100% of the bills and only have a bare minimum of my paycheck left over. I have my own checking and savings accounts and have since this whole thing started.

the problem I'm having is she STOLE my lawyer money that I borrowed from family. By myself getting a simple signature loan is out of the question because of my debt to income ratio....NO ONE WILL LOAN ME THE MONEY!

Again I cannot AFFORD (as in cannot come up with the cash....as in the credit cards are maxed out) THE $2k to $3K retainer fee and most lawyers don't work for free.

I barely have enough money to feed myself and put gas in my tank to get me to work. Meanwhile she is making $600 to $1k a week in cash and living large and not giving me a cent of it for the simple things like Mortgage, insurance, Electric, Water. Next month I'm shutting off the phone and direcTV and paid her cell phone bill for the last time last month then got my own phone and account and got my name off of it.

Until i get a lawyer (see above) and go to court for the disposition of our assets and debts, I'm required to pay them wich makes it difficult to afford a lawyer because said debts are in my name. Otherwise I screw my credit up.

Meanwhile Tomorrow I have a meeting with a JAG attourney to get some free legal advice about stuff and a meeting with a county family advocate that works with the military to deal with spouses like this.

Hopfully after my meetings tomorrow some options will open up.

midnight Target · « **Reply #34 on:** July 26, 2007, 12:35:59 AM »

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Originally posted by lasersailor184
Bull****.

I met a guy who spent an incredible amount of money to get custody of his kids. The mother was negligent and running a meth lab out of the back of the house.

Later, I heard the mother's lawyer barely even tried and won the case.

Bull**** yourself. I won full custody of my 2 daughters when I was divorced and they were aged 3 and 8. They are both in their 20's now. Your Dad might have had a crappy attorney.

SkyRock · « **Reply #35 on:** July 26, 2007, 02:17:03 AM »

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Originally posted by midnight Target
Bull**** yourself. I won full custody of my 2 daughters when I was divorced and they were aged 3 and 8. They are both in their 20's now. Your Dad might have had a crappy attorney.

I'm in agreeance with this cat, if you are doing the right thing and she is doing the wrong thing, if you get a decent attorney, you should win!

Gunslinger · « **Reply #36 on:** July 28, 2007, 09:58:42 PM »

in my case it's not that simple. My daughter is actually my step-daughter that I have no legal right to. Judges decide these things in the best intrest of the children and that usually means not splitting up siblings.

Meetings were ok...the only new option I have is a pro-bono lawyer or go to the "st. marry's college" and get a grant for a student that just passed the bar.....not much of a choice!

Maverick · « **Reply #37 on:** July 29, 2007, 11:04:20 AM »

The longer you delay the fewer choices your wife will leave to you. Your world has gone away, time to adapt to another one, modified either by your choice or by hers.

AKIron · « **Reply #38 on:** July 29, 2007, 05:28:12 PM »

Can you get free assistance from the base legal office Gunslinger? It seems I recall that they won't represent you in a civilian court but perhaps they can in other ways.