I feel your pain and, as an aside (from a non-active), the AvA isn't actually the dueling arena. Just sayin'. Other than that, when numbers are low and an AvA event isn't happening, it's not an entirely unreasonable request to make, spur of the moment. But the CT (predecessor to the AvA) was not set up as a "chivalry" arena, by any means. Some may come there to escape "MA habits" but it wasn't designed for that.
"The Axis versus Allies arena is set up for historical gameplay. There is a two sided war, a limited plane set, and reduced radar."
Still, more power to ya.