5 - 9 in the evening when my wife is home, you seldom find me in AH or at the computer.
Before that, or after that, absolutely, but you do need to show your putting them first at least sometimes.
Find an hour or 2 a day that is "your" time, and fly.
But don't short the lady's on "their" time either.
After all, if she's not happy, your not happy.
If she's unhappy long enough you'll find yourself with only half your stuff.