I can tell if something is off somewhere if it starts to drop. If I'm shooting good, then I'm killing well, and everything else falls into place. I don't mind fighting several guys, only to get killed without getting one of them. My k/d doesn't really effect me one way or the other. I do really really hate missing kill shots on a bad guy and then ending up getting killed by him. I'll get killed over and over and not care, but I sure hate losing a fight due to gunnery or rubber bullets that I really should have won.
QFT. Nothing is more frustrating then loosing fights you know you should have won but for missed shots. Some nights I seem to hit everything I aim at. Others I can take the exact same shot at the exact same angle in the exact same situation and in ways where you shouldnt be able to miss if you wanted to. And nothing happens.
To chime in on the KD ratio
Alot depends on what type of flights you fly. If all you do is fly with the horde, Or will only engage when you have superior numbers advantage. Or any other kind of advantage. And avoid the afore mentioned circumstances where you dont have the clear advantage. If you never help in taking down ack instead letting others do it for you. Then you should, by almost default have a higher K/D ratio. Because from the get. the deck is stacked in your favor
If you up and are willing to fight against anything that comes along. regardless of circumstances, fly into the horde,attack superior numbers, Defend against the horde,Or just defend a base against superior numbers, up from capped bases, Help in taking down field ack. Or fly the types of flights that usually end with 4,5,and 6+ people chasing after you. (Like I often end up LOL) Your K/D ratio will almost by default be lower/ed because the probability of survival is less.
Personally I usually look for the fairly even fight. darbar wise. One where if there is an advantage one way or the other it isnt dramatic. then I'll tend to stay in an area until it becomes ridiculous one way or the other. some nights I do well. others...not so much.
The high ranking stats are more often then not are done by manipulation and serve as no real indicator as to how well your doing.
Are you having fun? I fthe answer is yes. then your doing well.