Hey Donpost
Im glad you found your way to the BBS, there's a LOT of great information barried in here, enough to fill a great book. There are also a lot of confusing and sometimes contradicting (seemingly, but that toonwill make sense later in your pilot career) information, however if you take the time to read some air combat books and flight theory you will eventually develop the key in understanding the different arguments posted here.
1) For getting the most battle experience, check out the Dualing Arena. You will die a lot, but you can learn a LOT too! But keep reading on things like energy management and try and always wing up with someone, the furball lake in the DA can also produce bad flying habbits. As long as you learn to develop your SA and learn to time your moves, you will improve.
2)use the split S as a ditching effort to get away. It can sometimes help you, but it usually will not help you out in an angles or energy fight. What will help you most is to learn high and low Yo-Yo like moves or Siccors for ACM. The name of the game is to get the pilot who has more Energy (alt {seperation} and speed, to keep it sympol for now) to burn his energy up while you conserve and store as much as you can. Learning WHEN to pull a flat turn or any other ACM is what makes all this work. That takes time, studying, and practice
Dont get too frustrated and NEVER fly when you are angry or in a bad mind set. Air combat IS a form of martial arts and psychology plays a big roll. You want to take advantage of the enemies mind state and learn to defend against him trying to do the same with yours
If you see me, Owlblink, on in the DA, give me a shout out ( .p Owlblink). Im far from the best pilot, but its good to know people.
PS a lot of pilots tend to have big egos, dont take it personal if you ever offend someone in game and they call you out, that is also part of the psychological game. be humble and avoid the Trolls