I see your point, but if HTC has gone so far to model as perfect as possible the flight charcteristics of the aircraft then behaving as real of a pilot as possible should have its merits, imo. If that means being able to roll into the hanger then so be it.
So then any time a pilot 'dies' in game, he loses his ID other then to have it placed on a cartoon gravestone. All Perks and Points are lost. If he bails over enemy territory and gets to the ground alive he is placed in a cartoon POW compound for as long as the war goes on. Only when the war is won is he able to actually fly again. Oh and he loses all perks and points and must start at 0 as it's a new war.
Pilot's will be permanently assigned planes as to the need of the country they fly for. While they may have dreamed of being a fighter pilot, they may end up as a co-pilot in a 4 engine bomber, or flying dive bombers. Fighter pilots will be assigned to planes available which may not always include the latest and greatest. They may be forced to go into combat in a lesser bird then their 'enemies' for the sake of their country.....
You get the idea. If we're really going to do 'realism' then let there be a cost to it as well.
That being said, I can't get past that it's a game.