I find it funny the comment about conspiracy... If there is anything wrong with any given plane in this game it is isolated to that plane's modeling and only that plane. It isn't a grander design to nerf one side over the other. A flaw in a Fw190 is simply that, a flaw in the Fw190. It doesn't hint at any ulterior motives.
On this topic, I would question the diagram posted. It could possibly be telling mechanical stresses, the tolerance the flaps have before being destroyed, rather than actual policy (i.e. "you may deploy flaps to turn tightly").
I think overall there was almost no use of "combat flaps" in Bf109s throughout the war. I've heard of some tales specifically citing a Bf109 with flaps down, but all were slow speeds, preventing a stall. Manual flaps is simply a bad idea for a modern fighter design. Of all the modern parts of the Bf108 and Bf109, I have no idea why they left this with such an old fashioned chain-and-gear system.
I think the fascination and drive to prove there WAS massively widespread use of the flaps on bf109s is only from flight sim fans in the past 10+ years or so (Ubi, AH, and other fans, not specific to any one game) to get more performance for their favored ride in a game, rather than to prove any historical usefulness. I'm not picking at anybody on these forums, I am talking overall and in general. I've noticed some similar sentiments on other forums, discussion forums, and generally there's an element (big or small) of flight sim gaming and definite bias towards LW planes in "game X" for the people advocating this particular thought. Again, just what I think. Take it or leave it.