Smokin,
Every generation since the beginning of time has thought the the kids of the one after theirs were spoiled and doomed. It's the nature of the beast. We all want to romanticize the past. I'm a history junkie. But if you really look at it, and what was being written and said at the time about the 'kids', it's always the same. Just because the world changes, and new 'stuff' appears that the kids want, doesn't mean we've fallen off the rails.
Everything you talk about you and your wife doing with your 10 and 7 year old, is what good parents do. Parents have always done that. Are there parents who aren't good at it? Absolutely. But that's been true forever as well.
Since this is a WW2 based game, I'll use 'the Greatest Generation' as an example. We love to make them larger then life because of how we've glorified and romanticized that war. I was sitting at a family gathering a while back and someone started a rant about the current generation and was lamenting them not being like the "Greatest Generation'. I pointed to my 21 year old nephew who'd just come back from a year long tour in combat with the 101st in Afghanistan and said there was a member of the greatest generation in the room and pointed at him.
He struggled in school, tested limits with his parents and all the usual stuff. But when push came to shove, he did what was needed to do, just like those kids back in the 40s. If you dig in to their stories, they screwed up, tested limits, challenged their parents too.
You can't blame the kids for being kids now, as they didn't have a say in the matter. Nor can you blame the parents for parenting now. It doesn't mean the world is coming to an end. It's just another generation dealing with what parents and kids deal with.
To say that today's kids don't get it, is to suggest the parents don't get it. Well that means the parents of the parents didn't get it and so on.
Understand that people react to tragedy in different ways and want to find someone or something to blame. It's not rational. But it is part of grieving. The AR15 I sold recently was bought right after my 21 year old son died. I bought it and an Springfield M1A because we enjoyed shooting and talking guns. I bought them in the agony of the pain of losing him. In my mind I thought that maybe, just maybe he'd come home because I could finally get the guns he really wanted. Guess what. It didn't work. But it was, was it was, and in some crazy way it helped me. I sat up by myself with that M1A where we'd deer hunted, dreaming and praying my son would walk out of the woods and join me. Didn't happen. I sold the AR15 and gave the M1A to his best friend's Dad because I knew I'd never shoot Andrew's guns and I suppose by not having them anymore, I finally admitted to my self that he's truly gone.
So now folks who are shocked, horrified and grieving the loss of those kids and teachers are looking, begging for an answer. And in that they are talking about guns. it's their right whether it's rational or not. If it helps folks to deal with this tragedy by talking about gun control, so be it. For the gun guys to panic in fear they'll lose their guns is just silly.
Step back, look at the entire picture and put it in perspective.
And keep up the good work raising your kids