Input control and the connection to the servers are completely separate things.
http://bbs.hitechcreations.com/smf/index.php/topic,68316.0.html contains the IP addresses of the various servers.
I reviewed the film you sent and sent you an email. Here is the response I sent:
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Wrong server. Use 71.252.137.146. It is one of the game servers.
That said, let me explain a couple of things. Aces High is not a server based game where the server is flying your plane. Your plane is all controlled on your computer. The ping/traces have nothing to do with control inputs.
That said, I reviewed the film and see you are getting the dreaded, "Don't move your controls so quickly". This message also causes the game to ignore control inputs for a short period of time. If you are having a difficult time controlling the velocity of the stick motion, you can add damping or deadband to the affected axis using the games Options->Controls->Map Controllers->Advanced panel.
Simply open Options->Controls->Map Controllers. Make sure your stick is selected from the drop down list at the top of the clipboard. Then select the X or Y axis and check the "Advanced" checkbox. This opens a flap on the clipboard with a lot of sliders on it. The only ones you should be concerned with are the "Damping" and "Dead Band" sliders.
There are two graphs to the right. The left graph shows the stick raw input and the right graph shows what the input looks like after you adjust the two sliders we are talking about here.
Dead band: It creates a dead spot around the stick, so that any motion of the stick, in that dead spot, is ignored.
Damping: Creates a velocity ramp which slows the rate of the input.
I hope that helps. If you need more information, please feel free to ask. There are a number of people here who know this topic very well.