Well, at least it has a nice sounding name and primarily occurs with males: Paraphilia
Your use of the term Paraphilia here just didn’t ring true, or perhaps appropriate, in my mind. I know that starting in the 1970s the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) started using clinical research to remove behaviors such as homosexuality as a mental disorder. I was pretty sure that by now that they had defined LGBT in light of clinical research, and not societal biases.
So I did the google thing.
http://www.dsm5.org/Documents/Paraphilic%20Disorders%20Fact%20Sheet.pdfDSM5 defines Paraphilia disorders to include eight conditions:
• Exhibitionistic disorder
• Fetishistic disorder
• Frotteuristic disorder
• Pedophilic disorder
• Sexual masochism disorder
• Sexual sadism disorder
• Transvestic disorder
• Voyeuristic disorder
Furthermore:
“To be diagnosed with a paraphilic disorder, DSM-5 requires that people with these interests:
• Feel personal distress about their interest, not merely distress resulting from society’s disapproval;
Or
• Have a sexual desire or behavior that involves another person’s psychological distress, injury, or death, or a desire for sexual behaviors involving unwilling persons or persons unable to give legal consent.”
As relating to your comment “Transvestic disorder” might seem to be the best fit within the term, however;
“…transvestic disorder, which identifies people who are sexually aroused by dressing as the opposite sex but who
experience significant distress or impairment in their lives—socially or occupationally… “ and “..individuals must
experience significant distress or impairment because of their behavior.“
Based on the above, I do not think that the OP’s behavior can be classified as falling within the clinical definition of paraphilia.
If the OP has “significant distress or impairment” ,which he doesn’t seem to express, I think that you could apply the term here. But that is not the case. He seems more comfortable than some people I know.
There seems to be a sense that is expressed by some that the OP is “unnatural” or not quite right in the head and bad for society.
During my googleing I came across the following behaviors that I believe are “unnatural” or wrong:
Sex with:
• Non-human objects
• The suffering or humiliation of oneself or one's partner
• Children
• Non-consenting persons
(Sorry lost the ref link)
With the obvious exceptions that most should be able to apply to the first bullet "Non-human objects", I think that these four bullets might cover all that is sexually "unnatural"
