He answers that in the very first post...
And Bear, like the rest of those who echo this question, know that this venue is totally inappropriate for personal, sexual, perspective and sexual experience-sharing. No offense to the OP but that's the difference between maturity (knowing the appropriate venue) and immaturity.
He quite simply could have typed this differently and received a much better, supportive response. He even admitted he knows how he wrote it would generate mixed feelings.
Good idea. Poor execution.