In the case of MCAS, an 'AOA disagree' alert could deactivate the system smoothly
In the aircraft I deal with, an AOA disagreement is signaled to the crew by a Crew Alerting System (CAS) message that displays in Amber and simply says "AOA Miscompare". When the crew looks up the CAS message in the QRH (Quick Reaction Handbook) it just says "Determine correct AOA indication". It assumes, therefore, crew situational awareness and competency. To your point, this AOA Miscompare DOES NOT disable any stick shaker or stall barrier function. Were either of those systems to actually trigger, there are different CAS messages and procedures.
3) About the 3rd pilot in cockpit the day before the Lion Air crash: maybe he hadn't extra knowledge but, free of having to repeatedly wrestle the controls and positioned further back allowing him to see the trim wheel spinning, he was much more able to correctly troubleshoot the event.
As Vraciu mentioned, it's pretty hard to miss the trim wheels spinning on either side of the center pedestal. They are right next to your inboard leg. I know in the earlier Boeings by design they made a "clank" sound as they spun; don't know about the MAX.
Secondly, when you earn your ATP part of the test is to see if you have the judgement and situational awareness to keep your wits about you and troubleshoot problems when things are going to excrement. The PIC and SIC in the Lion Air jumpseat situation should have realized they had an AOA/trim problem and dealt with it. Same with the Ethiopian crew.
As for stall warning events, there is a 2018 Annual C-FOQA Centerline Statistical Summary Report. FOQA stands for Flight Operational Quality Assurance. A lot (most?) modern aircraft now have tattle-tale Flight Data Recorders. When a limitation is exceeded or a serious flight event occurs, the systems report. These events go into the FOQA summary.
I have access to the 2018 report through mygulfstream.com. I could not find the report published on the open internet. Maybe someone else can.
Anyway, the 2018 summary shows the rate of stall warning events at about .05 per 100 flights, so 5 events per 100 flights.
This data was collected from 424,000 flights of 815 different aircraft of 22 different models, from Boeings, Bombardier, Cessna, Dassault, Embraer and Gulfstream.
So, think about that. in 2018, 5 out of 100 flights in this data set had a stall warning event. That does not speak well for pilot competency IMO. That's just too frequent.