GtoRA2: ...but maybe the kids would be better with their mother for the time being and when the dad gets back he can take her to court and get them back?
Right. Two people serving in Iraq and looking ahead to a painful, expensive legislative battle upon return to hopefully retrieve their children. And the longer they stay there, the less chance they would succeede.
And if one of them dies, the other one would never get the custody back. Yeah, quite an insentive to risk one's life for their country.
Still a crappy situation. Any judge who would do this is a jerk.
He is doing his duty. The children's mother applied for custody and he had no right to deny her hearing.
I do believe the military will backpedal and not court-martial her for a clear derelictipon of duty. Which will be illegal, destructive to morale and very unfair to other people who left children back here.
Whichever side you consider - judge, ex-mother, the family, the military - I sympathise with their position. Unfortunately they mutually exclusive.
miko