Hi Ric,
While Aces High has its own core of (great) trainers, I've always felt it the general responsibility of newbie familiarization and training fell upon the 'senior members' or veterans of flight sims. A game can offer structure, but the community glues it together and adds so much more. If anyone finds themselves becoming overwhelmed in the complexity of a game, they should not hesitate to ask. Ask anyone anything anytime. Unfortunately, asking in-game quesitons on Channel 1 is not the best place to start asking the basics. The Training Arena and Help and Training forum would probably be the best place to look. Another place to look would be the Trainer look-up or search feature online. Lastly, do a lot of reading. Surf the boards, google for flying tips/techniques, post some messages/questions.
Lastly, no matter how much reading you do, the absolute best thing you can do is plain old trial and error. First hand experience and repitition will help you the most.
Use all the resources available to their fullest extent. And again, if you find yourself frustrated, ask away.