Question for the Married Guys...

[Ripsnort]

Does qualifying for "sex" have to involve her in your poll, Muck?

[Gunslinger]

I'll tell ya what If she's having a complicated pregnancy I can surly understand why  her "hanger doors are closed"

My wife was EXTREMLY wanting alot more "flight time" while she was pregnent

BUT (this is were you are going to cry)

Most woman AFTER pregnancy dont want any "stick time" AT ALL for about 6 months.  Has somthing to do with their hormones being AFU.

[lada]

Originally posted by muckmaw
Anywaty, she said only 1 of her married friends has sex more than once a week.

well im not Ace in sutch matters, but i do not see any logical relation between her friends needs and needs of you 2.

Question is does she feel need often (even if you will turn&burn around her for a while).... Its like.. one of my friends is having bath once a week, so we shall not waste water honey

i buttuer shut up on this one

[muckmaw]

No No, I could use all the advice I can get on this one.

As a matter of fact, I was thinking about some of the board members last night when the wife and I were dicussing the problem.

My first thought was, "Geez, some of the guys on the board are such great debaters...I wish I could let them go to bat for me..."

No such luck.

Anyway, I'm not feeling any better. As a matter of fact you 3X a week boys are making me feel worse!!!

You know what I need...honestly...2 Quickies..I settle for a handy...a week...and something with some Victoria's secret involved once a week.

Am I asking too much? I don't think so.

[muckmaw]

Originally posted by Gunslinger
I'll tell ya what If she's having a complicated pregnancy I can surly understand why  her "hanger doors are closed"

My wife was EXTREMLY wanting alot more "flight time" while she was pregnent

BUT (this is were you are going to cry)

Most woman AFTER pregnancy dont want any "stick time" AT ALL for about 6 months.  Has somthing to do with their hormones being AFU.

OMFG!!!:eek:

You do realize this would put my "Mustang" in the hangar well into 2005!!!

Seriously, would an extra-mariatl one-nighter be justified here?

[Sandman]

Been married over 20 years... frequency is 3+ times a week. My wife kicked into second gear somewhere at mid-30 and I have to work to keep up. If it was solely up to her, it would be daily, if not twice daily (or more).

[Curval]

Muck...I have felt your pain bro.  I even posted a "Me so Horny" thread over at Chk. 6 during my "trial by pregnancy".

Now...the wife was very generous right up until month 8 of the 3rd pregnancy.  Then all went cold.

Baby was born in January.  Things are just beginning to return to normal now.....thank GOD.

Now...we were both watching a show once, not too long ago, that stated that the average couple has sex 3 times a week.  We (more accurately "I") use this as a guage.  If  we have sex less than that I make it quite obvious to her that we are below "normal".  If more, I just keep quiet.  

Our sex life does go in spurts though (forgive the pun).  Sometimes we are like rabbits and are at it 6 or 7 times a week.  Other times 1 or 2.  It is never static.

The wife just discovered "lunch sex" though...which is going to be awesome.  Having 3 really young kids has definately prevented us from being able to enjoy sex as much as we would like.  The wife is constantly tired from getting up throughout the nights with the baby and then taking care of her during the day, while also cleaning, cooking etc.  She also does more than her fair share of work with the two boys.

So, starting this past Friday we have added 2 days a week of lunch sex.  Wednesdays (squad night....her suggestion) and Fridays.

She gets the baby to sleep and jumps into the shower right after calling me to tell me to come home.

It is pretty darn cool, I gotta say.

Only thing is....I feel like a glazed donut when I get back to work.

[myelo]

Depends on which map is up in the CT.

[midnight Target]

Anything over 3x a day and I feel chafed.

[Airhead]

Married 20 years, one child, not living at home, and we have sex once a year, and once a year ONLY. You might wonder why I'm so happy about it...  I mean, only having sex once a year, you'd think I'd be pretty bummed out...  Ordinarily I would be... but....  

Today's the Day!! WOO HOO!!!

[SOB]

Originally posted by muckmaw
Seriously, would an extra-mariatl one-nighter be justified here?

Absolutely, that is a terrific idea!  And you should be sensitive about it too.  Once you've found a compatible 'ho, you'll naturally have to bang her to be sure, introduce her to the wife.  Let your wife know that you understand that her needs are different than your needs, and that you're doing this because you love her and you don't want her to feel pressured to give you sex when she isn't "in the mood".  If you have any extra room in the house, or better yet a room above the garage, you could house your reserve 'tang there for convenience.  Again, as a courtesy to your wife, so that you're always close to home, even when banging the backup.  Let me know how it turns out!

[capt. apathy]

Seriously, would an extra-mariatl one-nighter be justified here?

no.

for myself anyway, I'd leave before I'd cheat.

also a nice rule of thumb if you are considering it.  if you cheat and get caught, the odds of keeping the curent one are fairly slim.  if you wanted to, you could easily justify it and keep the new one.

so the question is-  would you be trading up or down?

any time I've been tempted I roll that question around in my head.  20 years and I haven't found one that I would consider as "trading up"

[Dnil]

It probably depends on how healthy your relationship is.  There were parts in my marriage where I went 6 months without doing anything.  Oddly enough the last few years of the marriage the sex was pretty regular.  Anything over twice a week for me was just too much.  When I was a kid sure all the time was fun but jeez its just sex.  


During a counselling session once we had to each write down on a piece of paper how much sex during a week would satisfy us....our answeres surprised each other....and its quite common for get the roles reversed.  I.E. the women actually wants more of it then the man.

After the divorce I didnt want to get near another women, the ex on the otherhand would jump anything that moved and often did.

[Ghosth]

I was in my 40's when I got married, first time for me, 2nd time for my wife.

We made almost 5 months without missing a day, weekends we ate & went back to bed. 4 - 5 a day on weekends was just average.

Now she's going through the big change and its anywhere from twice a week to once a month.


Muck, your a good man, so be one.
Cheating IMO is cheating, breaks all deals, contracts, etc.

Tough it out, this too will pass.

[capt. apathy]

btw- a little extra ammo in case you need it.

if she's a church going girl,  she might be interested to know that the Bible says the only valid reasons for married people not to have sex is for sickness or spiritual fasting.

sorry, I remember most everything I read but I'm not any good at all for quoting chapter and verse.  but seeing as how you have all this extra pent-up frustration and energy to burn off, you could likely find it on your own.