Originally posted by Saurdaukar
Im never getting married. Never.
I have alot of respect for my parents or anyone else who can stay together for 30, 40, 50 years. I have no idea how two people can stay together for decades.
There was a time (20-40 years ago) when I would have considered your remarks as cynical. The sad thing is, in this day and age, that your stance makes perfect sense. All of it.
But I'm biased. A close friend of mine since 1970 is facing financial calamity now that his wife has divorced him taking half his assets - never having put a single penny into the kitty. (but what difference does that ever make any more) And last week I got a somewhat tearful phone call from another long-time friend since 1982. He'd just come from the funeral of a friend who'd committed suicide after his loving wife
had divorced him, having waited so that she could achieve a preferential distribution of the joint assets (including pensions).
Divorce settlements in Britain are heavily weighted in favour of the woman, especially if children are present. Eg. one guy I know had £105,000 equity in the matrimonial home. When he got divorced, the court awarded him a piddling £30,000 - the wife got the rest.
Of course, there are some good long term marriages. But it's a lottery these days. Way too high a risk. A bit like those guys who bet everything they own on RED at the roulette table. At least in that scenario you have a chance to WIN!
But as I've said before. There's no reason that marriage should cause difficulties with regard to intimate relations between two people. It's only when the two people are married
to each other that the problems arise.
