jetb123 ...
I haven't run across you yet, but let ask a few questions.
Is your first instinct on the merge to try an HO ?
The reason I ask is that you state that if you take your eye of the opponent for 1 second, they are then attached to your 6.
If you are HOing .. stop doing it. Anyone that has any experience, that avoids HOs will smoke you just about everytime, in a short amount of time.
Concentrate more on your merge ... think about what you are going to do before - during - and after the merge. If you HO, your only thought is to land your hits and if ya miss, you basically have taken your eye off the opponent and are now in trouble. You have no "Plan B" when you HO.
If you aren't HOing, it sounds like you are getting reversed on lead turns and you are not compensating your entry into the merge to cut off the lead turn.
Do you vary your speeds at the merge ?
The faster you are at the merge, the longer it will take you to get around on your opponent. Conversly, slower merges will get you around faster.
If you are faster at the merge than your opponent, don't always think "flat" turn, think "vertical". If you are slower at the merge think "flat" turn and watch for their "vertical".
There are MANY ways to reverse and there are MANY ways to counter the reversal. Film some of your encounters and then post them for viewing and advice. Some/most will give you honest and good advice.
Also, watch films that have been made by some of the better pilots that we have in AH. There are plenty of them floating around out there.
Do you have ALL your 8 views and the combined UP views mapped to your stick ?
If not, then you will never really be able to keep track of your opponent that is really necessary in dogfighting.