I guess in reality, with each air combats involving multiple, cooperating planes, the worser flight characteristics of the 190 did not mean much, on the other hand, in areas where it mattered it was just as fast, MUCH more heavily armed, more rugged, with better visibility, and a more modern-looking (though IMHO not really better) cocpit than the 109.
I always prefer the 109s though. One area the 190 cannot even nearly compete is the extremely friendly, forgiving nature of the 109. Not even in the most thrilling dogfight, with tons of adrenalin can I do something stupid with the 109, rough handling, hard stick use, snap manouvers - it forgives it all ! It always remains under my control. Plus, as soon as we are one on one, the 109 shows it`s ability to be successfull 'lone wolf'. It has a very wide fight envelope, it`s good at both high up and down low, it`s good at both energy fighting and a manouvering fight, very good in the horizontal and phenomenal in the vertical. This ensures that until you do something, really, really, really stupid in series, you always dictate the fight, engage and disengage at will against most enemies. Not in the 190s, with that, you have to follow strict tactics and strictly use your best manouvers with care. You can never rest in 190 because of that, plus, if you got used to how nicely the 109 behaves in manouvers, you can never forgive the 190 that it behaves in the way she does.