Your rating scale does not cover all possibilities.
In my case, I could care less about the "strat" game / missions / squads. I am interesting in maneuvering combats with small numbers of opponents.
What this means for your poll is that I am interested in a fair amount of realism, but only in a selected area. Once in the maneuvering combat I crave, realism is desirable, but not flying an 8-hour mission to get there. Also, certain aspects of realism (like extreme stress, death, etc.) do not appeal to me.