Its not as much blame as its anger GS...
As for "blame." The fault for the war lies with our people, with our politicians, our racism and our lunatics and most of all our inabity to forgive for outrages of the past and accept our responsibilty for causaing them to each other over the years. And unfortunately the war just made it worse and they hate each other even more.
As for anger, I just dont know what to make of it when the UN calls srebrnica a safe area, invites 10,000 refugees in and then gives them to the serbs. By 1995 I think it was obvious for everyone what the serbs were doing to bosina.. I dont think any sane person could think that the serbs would treat them well no matter what, genocide or no genocide. So I'm jusat very shocked, and very angry that the UN did not protect those people as they promised...
And just look at what you wrote, the way the UN is setup is what made the srebrenica safe zone meaningless. Yet the promises drew in 10,000 people, all of whoose lives were very meaningful...
So it comes down to my anger and my wish that the UN becomes more meaingful and agressive in the future..
I want to move on and forgive, and maybe if the UN changes, learns from its mistakes, and becomes more agressive in stopping these genodices then it will be easier...