Hi Lizking,
Sorry about the late reply, spent all day at Presbytery 3 hours away in Charlotte and then had a Pastoral Visit in the evening.
Lizking, this is a good question, and one on which we aren't forced to speculate because Christ addressed it directly and unambiguously:
Matthew 10:37 "He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me.
38 "And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me.
39 "He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for My sake will find it.
We even see this principle lived out in the case of the Apostles who left jobs and family in order to follow Him:
Luke 18:28 Then Peter said, "See, we have left all and followed You."
29 So He said to them, "Assuredly, I say to you, there is no one who has left house or parents or brothers or wife or children, for the sake of the kingdom of God,
30 "who shall not receive many times more in this present time, and in the age to come eternal life."
Why was following Christ more important than duties to parents? Well if Jesus was only a man, it wouldn't be, the fifth commandment requirement to honor mother and father would take precedent. There is only one to whom we owe greater honor than all others, that is God. Christ can only command a higher allegiance than parents or family or country if He is who he claimed to be: the Messiah, God Incarnate. C.S. Lewis pointed this out in his famous "Lord, Liar, or Lunatic" argument in Mere Christianity:
"I am trying here to prevent anyone saying the really foolish thing that people often say about Him: "I'm ready to accept Jesus as a great moral teacher, but I don't accept His claim to be God." That is the one thing we must not say. A man who was merely a man and said the sort of things Jesus said would not be a great moral teacher. He would either be a lunatic on a level with the man who says he is a poached egg - or else he would be the Devil of Hell. You must make your choice. Either this man was, and is, the Son of God: or else a madman or something worse. You can shut Him up for a fool, you can spit at Him and kill Him as a demon; or you can fall at His feet and call Him Lord and God. But let us not come with any patronising nonsense about His being a great human teacher. He has not left that open to us. He did not intend to." [C. S. Lewis, Mere Christianity (New York: Macmillian Publishing Co., 1952): 55-56.]
Obviously the Pharisees thought that Christ was either a Liar or a Lunatic, which is why when He used the great divine self-reference "I AM" (ego eimi) (Exodus 3:14 "And God said to Moses, "I AM WHO I AM." And He said, "Thus you shall say to the children of Israel, 'I AM has sent me to you.' ") they sought to stone him:
John 8:58 Jesus said to them, "Most assuredly, I say to you, before Abraham was, I AM."
59 Then they took up stones to throw at Him; but Jesus hid Himself and went out of the temple, going through the midst of them, and so passed by.
I heard a great modern day example of this principle being lived out from missionary friends working in Morrocco in 1997. They had been holding a bible study attended by a few young Muslims. One of them, a young woman came to faith in Christ and declared she wanted to become part of his body, the church, and be baptized. Her parents absolutely forbade her to do so, and her father and older brother warned her that if she was baptized, they would kill her themselves (apostasy from Islam is a death penalty offense according to the Quran [Sura 4.89 etc.] and Sharia Law). She talked it over with my friends, and ultimately asked to be baptized saying that "The Apostles said "We ought to obey God rather than men." and I will do the same, for I believe that Jesus is God and he said that those who believe in Him should be baptized." She was baptized in a local house church. A few days later, her father and brother slit her throat and left her body in the gutter outside her house.
John 11:25-27 "Jesus said to her, "I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in Me, though he may die, he shall live. "And whoever lives and believes in Me shall never die. Do you believe this?" She said to Him, "Yes, Lord, I believe that You are the Christ, the Son of God, who is to come into the world."
- SEAGOON