spot on with your assesment on the 2 diff kinds of DA pilots. When I am in there with a decent stick, like Urchin, or Yucca (insert uber stick name here) it's far more probable that one of us will crash into the ground during a 3min rolling scissor fight 20 feet off the deck at under 100kias. The head on is never tried for. Now then, with my squaddies, in there messing around, they seem to take great delight in face shooting me. Heh. Really ticks me off and they know it. (*ahem* WMSharp)
Really depends tho'. I have gone to the DA with some, and had to specify no face shots. If you don't want the ho, and you are doing a 1 on 1 duel with somebody, just agree to not face shoot.
(edit) extreme deflection shots are not ho's. If only one guy has gun position, it's not a ho. In that moment before we go nose to nose, if you can pull off a shot, and I do not have gun solution, I consider that acceptable.