Originally posted by lada
.... while gay marriage is not directly excluded....
It is in my state and many others. The only state that allows gay marraige is Mass.
Although I did not directly discuss statues regarding marraige, which vary by state, (I commend your knowledge of each states' statutes regarding this issue) only that a marraige is not just between a couple, but also a recognition by those outside the couple that the relationship has achieved a certain status.
If you wish that society recognize that you, for instance, have achieved a certain level of competance at practicing medicine, then you have to know the rules that define that level of competancy.
If you wish that society recognize your relationship as a marraige, then you must meet the standards society spells out.
Gays want to change the rules rather than work within them. If society is ready for that, so be it, but it appears that generally it is not, otherwise no controversy would exist.