I think alot has to do with the type of player you are. Fighter guys cant imagine spending time flying slow carrying bombs to a target over and over as fun, and many bomber guys dont see the fun in furballing either because they arent very good in fighters or its boring to them.
That brings me to Dreds point, the reason the bombers can spoil the fighter guys fun, and the fighters cant seem to spoil the bomber guys fun is simple. The fighter guys arent interested in flying to a few bases and taking out ord at them over and over. They lack the interest in the very thing that causes them pains.
If once an hour, a few of them each targeted a few bases and knocked out the ord, their problems would be solved.