Originally posted by Naso:
Yes, that was the point 
I have 4 years as Tae-kwon-do and 4 as Aikido martial artist and my Sensei told me the same.
"The only fight you really win is the one you dont have to fight".
Or somethink like that (i am a bad translator
).
I had a friend who was realy into Akido. He was freakin awesome, almost Steven Segal quality. He would never show many ANYTHING that could be used to hurt somebody, said I wouldn't use it for the right purpose. He did show me a few defensive moves, which what I could tell is 90% of Akido. He would explain that your best tool was the pace the attacker set. I NEVER saw him fight for real, I did see him talk himself out of 3 or 4 fights though

I watched him "spar" a few times w/ a friend of his. It was a sight to behold, almost like they were dancing.
He did show me 2 realy cool little tricks though. They had to do with what he called the kie (SP?) which is your center, physicly and mentaly ( i think). Anyway, it took me a while to get that part, and how to get "centered" but after I did what he showed me that ANYBODY can do is truely amazing, he had my Mom doing the same tricks.
You get "centered" and you are more powerful than you can possibly imagine. He told me to put out my right arm, straight forward from my body. He told me to get "centered" then he grabbed on to my arm, just above the elbow and hung from my arm. My arm didn't move at all! It didn't even feel like a 180 lb man was hanging from it. Ask Dnil, I'm week and skinny

. About 10-15 seconds into it, it tripped me out and I started laughing. That's when I felt the weight and dropped him. My mother was able to do the same thing with me.
The other trick was to get down on your knees, sitting on your feet. Get "centered" my friend would then push against the front of my sholders, putting his entire weight on them. I wouldn't budge until I started laughing at what was happening.
One of these days I'm going to go learn Akido, it seems to be the best defensive martial art. He always told me that the attacker sets the pace of the fight and that the harder he attacks, the harder he hits the floor

BTW my friend said he had never had to use his in a real fight either

Udie