Odd. My child is in a public school.
I have known each of her teachers, and meet the next years teachers in advance.
I know the Principle and have worked closely with, and on the campaigns of, Most of the School Board.
I go to each of my daughters award ceremonies, science fairs, teacher conferences.
I work nightly with my daughter on her homework and projects.
The Principle, better than knowing me, Knows my daughter very well. We have advanced learning programs brought to her class as many kids there didn't want to get in the pressure of the Gate program but were clearly ahead of the class. Customized the program for each of the students. Quite impressive actually, as the teachers, principle and I all agree that 9 and 10 is not the time to stuff kids in advanced, isolated classes learning that they are "better" than the other kids, so just enhance the homework and apply more rigid application of the study material in the classes with their peers.
Huge turnouts for all of the awards nights etc from the whole community.
Not in control? Bet my butt I'm not. I can walk in, any day, unannounced, and observe the classroom. I can have any question answered, when I ask, regarding certain information being sent out from school. I can question the items being taught, and most importantly, my daughter can question the items being taught, and uncovering mistakes or a PC Spin that goes against historical facts, can Change the way the item is taught. I just went through this several subjects. My daughter cried Foul, the teacher is new fresh from college, the principle corrected the error and moved on. My 9 year old is also a 4th grader on the Student Council. She takes nothing for granted, and is very critical of spin vs facts. I hope I had something to do with that.
Not in Control? Oh what a crock of bull. The Only ones not in control are those who chose not to participate. If you don't like the subjects taught, take it to your school board, if they wont act, Replace Them! If they are not replaced and the Majority of the people are ok with it, then You Lose and either accept or Change Districts to one that works to your advantage. But Not In Control is not a valid response.
Oddly enough, our school test scores are Rapidly Increasing. It's simply amazing what parental involvement can accomplish. If the Courts are taking over for the parents, it's simply because the parents have turned their backs on the kids and turned the schools into daycares and think they are off the hook for educating their own. Parents are Solely responsible for building a strong enough set of values so that no matter What some school tries to pump into them, the child will have the instincts to Question Everything, Demand Proof, and cry BS when it does not make sense.
Whether or not we can take it back depends entirely on whether or not you think we have Lost it. I'm in the middle of it daily, haven't lost a thing. That is what "taking it back" is all about. You always have it, whether you do anything with it or not is the true test as to whether you can lose it. It's not taken from you, it's given away by inactivity.
[trips and falls off soapbox]