Originally posted by texace
I've always felt that gay people were no different than straight people aside from the obvious. They lead productive lives and are generally nice people. There are some that don't even fit the stereotype of a gay person. I've also noticed that most people (read: white middle aged males) are only concerned with male homosexuality. Female homosexuality is no different, and yet most men find it to be stimulating and, frankly, fun to watch.
That about sums it up. If people want to be gay, fine. Just don't go acting it all out in front of the rest of us like it is a big thing that we all need to share in.
My opinion, men like to watch "lipstick lesbians" which are young, attractive women, because in public, they appear as women should (soft, pretty, dressing as women). If you saw one in public, you wouldn't know it unless she was acting openly sexual to another female. Also, men can look at them and be sexually interested.
Men don't like "butch lesbians" because they intentionally dress and act macho. It may be stero-type, but they are usually identifiable just walking by.
By the same token, if a man is gay, but looks and acts like a man in public, how would anyone know the difference?
But, if a man is dressing in feminine clothing, or walking around with a classic female strut, or talking in a high-pitched voice or presenting himself in a manner that is obviously non-masculine, it gives non-gay men a feeling of not wanting to deal with that person. It's not from a phobia.
My biggest issue is a question... Why is it when we (white males) don't like something and want nothing to do with it, the supporters of (insert sexual or religious group here) say that we are haters and have no tolerance? Why can't I just not like gay men the way I don't like to watch drag-racing or monster-truck rallies? I don't see drag-racing fans protesting that I am a drag-racing hater.