Apathetic kids are a problem, for sure. This is where the motivational side of the game comes to play. Even then there are some that will remain unaffected by anything you do. People do fall between the cracks, and that will always be so. The trick to staying alive in the game for me is to understand that I have to satisfy myself that I have done everything humanly possible to make the situation work for a student. After that they are accountable for their end of the bargain.
Here's a true story for you... this sounds made up it is so ridiculous, but sadly it is true... I had a conference with the parent of a child who was failing in my elementary class. The mother showed up drunk, I mean literally slobbering, rolling out of her chair reeking of Jack Daniels drunk. She was upset that I was singling her son out for persecution, and that I wasn't giving him a chance.
Now mind you, I had never raised my voice, said anything critical to him in front of the class, nothing of the kind.
"But ma'am, he is failing because he won't turn his work in."
"Right! You are embarrassing him by making him walk up to your basket and turn work in every morning!"
"Ma'am, all the students do this. They come in in the morning, put away their coats, dig out their work, and place it in the basket. The basket is in the back of the room, so no one is singled out."
"Can't you give him a break!?"
"I would love to. He can still do the work and turn it in, that's all I ask."
"See!? You are singling him out! Give him a break!"
That is an extreme example to be sure, but that kind of thing happens more often than you may think. Some of my other favorites include the mother of the 14-year-old failing 5th grade student who looked me in the eyes and said "School doesn't matter, she's gonna quit at 16 and make babies.", or the dad who was going to sue me because I was not allowing his daughter to play on the basketball team- she had failed 5 of 7 classes, all with his full knowledge. Another clear-cut case of discrimination on my part....
The sad thing is that these people even had their ridiculous arguments heard, and that I was pulled from a classroom full of students to hear them. It is depressing when you look at those moments too hard...
[This message has been edited by Kieren (edited 01-31-2001).]