In which case he's more likely to get himself killed by someone who has a gun and isnt bothered by using it.
If you really dont want to use a gun, dont buy one. If you pull a gun out and dont fully intend to use it when you do, you are going to die. I cant be any more blunt than that. A gun isnt a toy, especially a handgun. It isnt for intimidation. Rifles or shotguns you can use for hunting as well, but handguns were designed for only one thing. Killing people. Period. In your hands for self defense, it hopefully kills the other guy before he can kill you. In your hands to try to scare someone, it becomes your death warrant. Lets say you succeed and scare the guy so bad he's peeing down both legs. He really thinks you might pull the trigger. If he has a gun, he's going to take a chance and go for it, because at that point he figures he has nothing to lose. If you arent ready for it, he's going to get that gun out and before you can say Oh **** he's gonna put a hole in you. If he DOESNT have a gun, he's going to jump you and try to take that gun away. Either way, you lost because you didnt want to use it.
And what if you DO try to use it and you hit someone else by mistake, someone not even out there. The bullet goes through a window and kills some little kid or a kid's mother. Or maybe splatters Fido. Whatever. You dont sound like the kind of guy that wants to carry that kind of stuff around in his head.
If thats what you want a gun for, take my advice and leave it alone. Buy a big baseball bat instead. One with spikes and stuff.