Thanks for all the comments guys
Brenjen - the shop ran the fuel system cleaner about two months ago but they didnt have a fuel filter for my car in stock. I just had the fuel filter changed last saturday, thats when I saw all the black cruddy water/fuel in the filter. I have considered the possibility its just left over crap when the system was cleaned.
I havent considered changing the O2 sensor, the car only has 38,000 miles on it, and 28,000 I put on it this year since I bought it.
Goth - yes I try to avoid pumping my gas when the trucks are there filling the stations tanks, on the other hand I quite regularly run my tank (16 gals) down to about 3 - 4 gal before I fillup depends on my mood. thats a habit I may have to stop
Angus - yes some fuel filters are easy to change. On my car the fuel filter is near the gas tank. With fuel injection you have to depressurize the system and that takes extra care and time to not screw it up. I had the filter and the guy at the shop changed it for free, no charge cause I'm a regular customer
SaburoS - the car has been running fine all year, just two months ago it started acting sluggish at 50-60 mph (about 1500-2000 rpm's) the faster I tried to go the more it would seem to bog down, then after a few minutes all would be fine. when I had my oil changed I asked them about it and they ran the fuel system cleaner, all was good, car ran fine and gas mileage improved. car has 38,000 miles, spark plugs, air filter, and PCV were changed at about 15,000 miles. I'm thinking about the spark plug wires but wasnt worried about them because I inspected them and found no cracks in the insulation and the boots all look good.
Now that i think about it, my problem started two months ago when the car started running poorly, and that is probably when I got the bad gas, or else accumulated enough water in the tank to cause a problem.
I'll run some STP or denatured alcohol in the tank for the next couple of fillups and then change the fuel filter again. If its still bad I may just take the car to my brother-in-laws shop and pull the gas tank and drain and clean
It wouldnt be that hard for me to get samples from each of the gas stations I use so i know which one to avoid in the future, one of them may have contaminated ground tanks