My mother is driving me CRAZY!

[DREDIOCK]

My Freaking mother is driving me NUTS!!!

Its really nice to see her when she comes to visit. and its nice to have her here and all that but after a couple of weeks. She starts getting to me

My mom. God bless her I love her dearly and with all my heart. And I am thankful to have her and or all she has ever done for me.
But she over analyses every single minute detail on everything. And you can never give her a simple direct answer on any question she asks.
Now she is far from a stupid person but sometimes  no answer is simple enough for her to understand!!!! No matter how basic you try to put it
So you find yourself explaining and explaining and re-explaining the same things over and over and over and over and over and over and over again Until She finally gets it.
Or she wants to know every detail of everything now matter how minute or unnecessary to the conversation
This is  the same person that can no lie, take 10 minutes to pick out a can of beets in a grocery store

Let me put it to you this way. When I first mentioned this about my mom to my wife she didn't believe me one single bit and thought I was "being mean"

My wife now outright refuses to do any kind of shopping with her.
A 10 minute trip to the grocery store for a gallon of milk and a loaf of bread turns into a  45 minute pound by pound, ounce by ounce brand by brand cost per gallon/pound/ounce/grain of flour comparison.

This is the type of person which for example if you were telling her you shoveled dirt into a hole. You couldn't just say "I shoveled dirt into a hole"
NoOOoooooo
She would want to know.
What kind of Shovel, what the shovel was made out of. Where you got the shovel, How much the shovel cost. Why you bought that shovel instead of a different one. Why you didnt just borrow a shovel from someone else.
Where the dirt came from, What was in the dirt. Were any rocks or pebbles were in the dirt and if so what kind,color,shape and mineral makeup the stones or pebbles were.
How big was the hole,how deep was the hole. How did the hole get there.Why was the hole there what was in the hole beforel What was the makup of the dirt already in the hole and go through the whole stones /pebbles thing again.

All that just to say "I shoveled dirt into a hole"

And if something is wrong imagine this to about the tenth power

Small run of bad luck. (Well actually a small branch off of an extended string of already existing bad luck that's been going on for about 4 months now But that's another story)

We had several extended brownouts night before last followed by a total loss of power for like 2 hours.

Power came back on and AC wouldn't work
Mom discovered Fridge isnt working this either.

First it was about getting the AC to work. Im no HVAC mech. I couldn't tell you the first bloody thing on how to get them to work.

She knows this but asks anyway. Already knowing Im not going to have the answers

then its the fridge. I know only slightly more about those then I do AC units

So serviceman comes over and fixes the AC. Turns out it was no big deal

On the fridge one of the motors is shot. Soooo we decide to get a new one.
Problem is the one we want isnt in stock anywhere so she looks and looks and looks and looks in the Yellow pages at the same articles trying to get me to look each of them up on the web.
I try telling her that not ever company has a website. and not every company is listed with Verizon.

Then she....... well Shes just making me nuts over well.. all of the above.
EVERY
MINUTE
DETAIL


AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Not to mention she is staying up late at night. (usually what I call my "alone time" at the computer sitting next to me. Looking over my shoulder which she already knows I totally hate when people do that. wanting to know what this article or that news clip is about.
OR who Im writing an Email to,what its about, etc etc etc.
Not to mention cramping in on my pron time
I have to find a movie for her to watch if I want to get any kind of undisturbed flying time in
I just thank god she hasnt yet asked me how the internet works LOL


Sorry bout dat. Needed to blow off steam LOL

I know she means well. She really does. But Come on already LOL

And just to think. I have several more weeks of this.

I love my mother
I love my mother
I LOVE my mother

Mom. Isnt it time for one of your trips overseas with Uncle Al again? LOL


Well.. off to see if I can get a new fridge that can be delivered today.
Moms comming with me of course.

Cost per Cubid foot
Cost per color
cost per brand
delivery charge cost by store
rebate offer by brand/store

"they're comming to take me away HAHA"

[AWMac]

Is she HOT looking Dred?

Mac

[lasersailor184]

Funny, my mom is insane, and I hate her for it.

[Nilsen]

Originally posted by DREDIOCK

So you find yourself explaining and explaining and re-explaining the same things over and over and over and over and over and over and over again.

The Oclub is your mother?

[Jackal1]

She will get smarter and more enjoyable as you get older.

[lukster]

Whose mother doesn't drive them at a least a little crazy? Tolerate her the best you can, you'll be sad when she's gone.

[Angus]

Just don't shop, sit in the comfy chair, order Pizza and drink beer while flying AH.
When she has questions, put her on voc

[Saintaw]

Sounds like mine. I always make sure we live in different countries... it helps!

[RightF00T]

Mother's may be annoying but I know the things that drive me nuts I will miss later.

[ChickenHawk]

Sounds like a slight case of OCD.  Of course you realize you will never be able to change her.  You will have to learn to live with her or live in separate states.

[capt. apathy]

here's a small trick I developed.  it may save your sanity.

it's all a matter of perspective.  try not to picture yourself as involved in the situation.  try to visualize yourelf as the amused by-stander.  

for example.  have you ever watched the show 'The King of Queens'?  Jerry Stillers character is hilarious, but imagine if you had to live with that guy in real life.

he's at least as crazy as your mom but it's funny when he is nuts.  if you can't change them (and seriously, your mom's not going to change at this point)  try to enjoy the show.

My dad has Alzhiemers (sp?).  looking back with hindsight, it explains a few quirky behaviors he had in the years leading up to his diagnosis.

one thing he did as his memory began to go was he developed a 'script' for about 20-40 minutes of conversation (who he was, # of kids/grandkids, time in the service, wars he's fought in, POW time in ww2).  so when he would meet somone new (or that he didn't remember meeting before) and they'd talk to him it would trigger 'the speach'.  (IMO he does this so he can apear 'normal' in social situations.  the first time you hear it he apears to be a normal but talkative older guy.  he doesn't have to be the guy who's memory is shot.)

it used to be embarassing and frustrating.  I'm not just talking about social situations.  you could be trying to conduct bussines, negotiate on the price of a car and have the negotiation be derrailed for half an hour while he goes through his bit, or even just move through the express lane at the grocery store when the clerk triggers the 40 minute speach as the line builds behind you.

for a while it was so bad I couldn't even enjoy spending time in public with him because it was so frustrating.

then one day I was watching the King of Queens and I had my moment of clarity.  "that guy is almost as crazy as dad".  

  you are NOT stuck in the middle of an embarrassing and/or frusrating situation, you have front row seats to the show!

on some days I can even find a bit of enjoyment in the situation.  like when I take him shopping or bring him along on erands to get him out for the day.  instead of dreading it I actually try to anticipate 'the speach'.

  watching the clerk talk to him at the department store.  are they going to ask a 'trigger question' or make a comment that triggers the story?  watch for the look on their face when they realize they are trapped.

sometimes it helps to picture the TV around the scene you are watching.

I'm not talking about being disrespectful or making fun of him.  just taking an unavoidable situation and choosing to look at it in a way that makes the time I have left with him much more enjoyable.

[Thrawn]

DREDIOCK, if you love her than stop your *****ing and appreciate her.  So she likes to talk, so what.  You don't have to engage her.  

I wish I could hear my mom talk, but now the only thing she would be good for is grit on an icy sidewalk.

[nuchpatrick]

Even better my mother is my Boss at work  And yes...  I'm nuts.

[Skuzzy]

Saw the title, "My mother is driving me CRAZY!", saw the poster, "DREDIOCK", and immediately thought, "Short trip,...eh?"

And I am not even Canadian!  

[Nwbie]

Dred

I can sympathize

I have a 4 year old and 5 year old adopted daughters...same questions lol

My mom was raised during the depression.... those little questions were needed to survive, how old is your mom?
My mom always blamed her mom for that line of deductive thinking, the depression was tough on them and that was how they lived.

Funny, my mom would call me in the afternoon while I was at work and tell me to watch out that the traffic on 294 northbound at Cermak was tied up with a bad accident...

I lived about 5 miles in the opposite direction ... but everyday she would call and warn me about another traffic tie up somwhere -usually not even close to where I was heading...lol


I miss that


NwBie