Drediock,
Try my situation. I retire. I have a nice small house I like a lot, can afford on my retirement pension and have money in the bank. Lots of time for me, my hobbies and anything that catches my eye for diversion. Add to that I'm single, healthy and prospects for "companionship" are varied and plentiful. I do this for 6 months.
I visit my Mom. She tells me she wants to sell her place and move in with one of the kids. I ask her when and with whom, while holding my breath. She says she has to stay in Tucson. I drop through the floor. I'm the only one who stayed in the same town, checks on her regularly and gives her money each month so she has plenty to get by on. My Brother lives in San Diego and my Sister lives in Ohio at the time. Keep in mind this is the same Mom that from the time I can remember told me I was good for nothing and would never amount to anything and still does so........
I do the "good son" thing and sell her place for her, give her all the money and put my place up for sale while she moved in. Now my house is a small 2 bedroom +den so my kid has to sleep on the floor when he comes over for visitation.
I also go back to working and school full time for my MA degree while looking for a bigger new house. Sell the old one, finally find another house, bigger MUCH larger payment and let my Mom make the decision. I get the house using almost all of the money I had saved, we move in and the B******g starts. The house is too loud, too hot, too cold, her room is too small, she hates the kitchen, there is no good back yard and no grass in the front yard and she hates having to park her car in the garage. sigh....... I briefly consider matricide....... suicide.... cide a cide......
I call my Brother. He laughs and says he knew that wouldn't work out, why did I think he wouldn't volunteer........ I consider fratricide......... I don't even bother calling my Sister as I already know Mom hates her husband and the feeling is mutual......... In the mean time I find a truly wonderful lady and we get married. After a couple months Mom decides that she doesn't like my wife..........
Then the alzheimers REALLY kicks in. This had gone on for 5 years before my health starts to slide. Little Sister comes in the picture and takes over, and moves Mom to Ohio. Mom still telling me I am good for nothing, will never amount to anything and I made her life a living hell. Thanks Mom.....
I finally can sell the house I don't really like and have a hard time paying for. The market tanks and I barely break even on the remaining balance of the note. I still have to work for several more years before we can retire again.
Dred, you strill want sympathy????? BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Seriously, hang in there, she's only visiting. It could be worse.
