Originally posted by dmf
I'm glad sombody thinks that.
Will you make some mistakes? Sure, we all do.
But your fear of failing as a mother and parent will keep you thinking in the best interests of your child first and foremost.
So long as you do that. And do not waver.
You will not fail.
Just remember
Maintain good dicipline, always. Your their parent first, their friend second
When diciplining. Find what is the most effective for YOUR or that particular child. And make the punishment fit the crime. Dont go overboard on something minor. And dont be too leinient on the major stuff.
Make sure the punishments "stick" If you ground the kid for a week. for example. Then they are grounded for that week. Dont get soft and cave in after two days
What the child may want is not always what is in the best interests of the child. Its ok to say "no"
And they dont HAVE to have every new thingamabob out there just cause they want it.
Discourage the negatives. Encourage and reward the positives.
Encourage independence. To do things for themselves rather then you do everything for them. Remember, your teaching them how to survive inthe world once their grown. And that day will come alot sooner then you think...or want.
Set high standards and reachable goals for them. In time they will set high goals for themselves rather then take the easy way out.
The goals I alwas set were "Exellence is standard. Standard is substandard. And substandard will not be tolerated"
Let them make mistakes within reason.
thats how we learn
Be well nvolved in their lives. but not OVER INVOLVED.
And remember to let a kid, be a kid.
Talk to them. But also actually listen to what they have to say
And just love the hell out of them.
Do that. and you will not fail
I think you will do just fine
