Hi Laser,
Originally posted by lasersailor184
Kids are kids. If we don't **** up occasionally, and even don't **** up massively very rarely, we will have learned nothing.
You did the same.
Forgive the late reply, I wasn't ignoring, just didn't spot your post.
I hope you'll also forgive me but I think that trial and error is the worst form of childrearing.
For instance, as they are growing up we teach our children not to grab the handle of the boiling pot on the hot stove, not to stick the fork in the electrical socket, not to run into the road after the ball, not to get into cars with strangers, etc. We don't, for instance, expect them to learn simply by putting the toddler into a room with a boiling pot and letting him figure it out without our interference. While third degree burns will undoubtedly teach the little tyke a "massive" lesson he'll never forget, but is that the best way to educate and admonish?
You are right to point out that I went the trial and error route myself, but its only by the grace of God that I'm alive and not in jail today. I can think of at least 2 incidents where my foolishness should have gotten me killed, and several where I could have been arrested, including one where had customs in the US or UK really been on the ball I'd probably have done time. I also really, really, wish today that I had the brain cells and short term memory that I killed, back. I ended up hurting myself and plenty of others by my "screw-ups" and regret heartily many of my decisions.
Personally I don't think that a boatload of regrets, a seared conscience, and maybe an STD or two is what your kids should be graduating or failing to graduate from college or high-school with. I'd rather my sons and daughters learned from Daddy's recounting how unpleasant sticking the fork in the lightsocket was and why we shouldn't do it than by giving them all forks and leaving them alone in the room.
I'd also like to give them a working moral compass that would lead them to see why making decisions like the ones in the video are ethically wrong even if they
don't lead to physical or emotional harm every time.