Wether I am in the MA or the SEA, I always expect the HO. If you don't expect it, your playing with fire and are looking to get burned. I have very rarely been hit on a HO situation unless I am also trying to shoot. No honor gained or lost either way, but that is why I almost always avoid them. Most pilots can see a HO comming a long way off, and will take steps to avoid it. Never assume the other guy is not going to shoot.
My observation from the picture toadkill is that you attempted to fly directly under his nose. Just a hint, in case you haven't been instructed yet, it is better to fly to the right or left rather than going directly under him, and always be changing your flight direction. It is not too hard to make him miss. In fact, it is so easy, that I assume that anyone that gets shot down by a HO was flying dangerously and deserves to be shot down. In our squad, your letting your wingman down if you get shot down in a HO situation. It is looked at the same as not checking his 6, or failing to clear his 6, because now you have left your wingman alone. Ho's are too risky to play with, and we avoid them like the plague.