Theres no solution everyone would be happy with. Picking, milkrunning, ganging, sneak attacks on poorly defended bases, overwhelming numbers, were all things you wanted to do during WWII.
There will always be folks who look at the maps and drool at the easiest targets and those that see a huge red darbar and relish taking on impossible odds. Throw another group of guys in that are looking for straight-up, sportsmanlike fights, now throw in the fact that 1/2 want to win the map while 1/2 just want to furball, divide that by some playing for score, some who could care less about score, and multiply that by the fact that most in here are a mixture of all these groups depending on the mood, and it's a mess.
But, a very fun mess.