Does no one other than me use VOX in theses situations?
When I see what you saw, I normally click on the VOX and say:
"Hey Shawk, need a hand with that Spit?"
Shawk will normally reply "Nah, I'm fine," and then I just move on to someone else, but I just as frequently can have someone else say, "Yeah, if you could that would be great," and then I'm in.
It really isn't my problem if someone from the other country doesn't like it; if my countryman wants a hand, then at least someone in that "1V1 duel" doesn't think it is truly one on one.
BTW, if I don't get a reply, then one more VOX goes out, and if there's no reply and the countryman looks like he's losing, then I'm in. If it looks like he's winning, I'm out. I've never had a countryman whine to me about my actions by following these rules.
Just enemies. "Mission Accomplished!"
Food for thought.
-Llama