Shade accounts are a part of life in AH.
My wife and I used to fly simultaneously until our Daughter came along, at no time could we be mistaken for shades though.
Spying and other gamey stuff has always gone on, once it was dealt with by the players in game, these days it's by and large ignored. It's just not worth the stress.
Just because a new player is flying above NOE and thereby alerting of a possible incoming mission, does not necessarily make them a spy or a shade. IMO a real spy would join the mission, keep NOE and simply relay information directly to a team mate via PM. To do otherwise would unduly bring attention and be counter productive.
Why not take the time to educate the new guy to the finer points of flying below the radar? they may go on to become a valuable part of all your future missions or even your squad.
Raider probably does not need to be jumping to some of his conclusions, I'd say way too much knee and a little bit too much jerk there son.

On the other side, here in the general forum, he need not be given such a hard time. If it were the O'Club, where sharks frequent the waters, He'd probably deserve most of it.
Raider: This is a general forum, be very careful how you conduct yourself here lest Skuzzy give you a PNG for Christmas. Some of the issues and comments I see in this thread from you are unwarranted.