We're in a similar situation. Right after my girlfriend paid off her Dodge Caravan, all the warning lights pop on monthly. This month its brakes. Last month we noticed an advanced case of rusting around where the front strut mounts into the driver side frame. The thing is dying and fast.
The Honda's are clearly the best of the bunch (and well reviewed)...but like all Honda's, they keep their value for quite some time.
In our travels lately, we've been renting for our weekend getaways for longer trips. The Chevy Trailblazer we liked initally. The gf read up on them and noted the value drops on them quick...anything that gets sold to the rental companies falls into this trap. But that just convinced us that if we did find one we liked in the future, shop used. You'd be a fool to buy new then see the huge value drop.
The kids are 6 and 9 so we've still got one in a booster seat.
Being in the Northeast, we want something that's good in snow, miserly on the fuel yet ample room for beach days, robot hauling and camping trips.
I don't think we'll do new. Captain makes an excellent point...lightly used is a good market to shop in.