It really comes down to two types of people, I reckon:
Type A - This type thinks that the way they like to play the game is the only way it should be played and all others should understand to curtail their activities to fit that expecation. These are the types that tend to ruin other people's fun by bombing FHs and CVs to stop a fight or insisting or just furballing rather than actually taking a base, spawn camping in GVs, etc. They also expect everyone else to agree with them about the importance of whatever activity they are engaged in above what anyone else is trying to accomplish (or how others may want to enjoy their $15/month). They tend to be very good to impressively great at whatever aspect of the game they find entertaining. Additionally, no matter what reason is used, they will not be convinced that their view is ego-centric and self-serving.
Type B - Enjoy all aspects of the game and play it the way they want to with minimal griping because, that is the way the game works. Sure, they hate being HO'd, gang banged, vulched or spawn camped, but it rolls off of them because the wheel turns. They enjoy a good furball, or a good bombing run, a base capture, or whatever suits them, but are not fixed on one aspect of the game being the only aspect of the game. They let others play the way they want, and they find their fun where they can. These types are much more likely to just go elsewhere to do what they feel like at the time than to try and change everyone elses behavior.
Not calling one side or the other good or bad, but that's what I see from the posts. Each side has valid points, but with the nature of the game and the current level of coding, it is pointless for the Type A's to get frustrated with each other.
From what I read, the Type A's are not frustrated with the Type B's. They are frustrated with the other Type A's that have decided to put their interest above other Type A's. And, in part, I can understand. It is a pain in the 4th point of contact to have some dufus come along and game the game in order to be the big man. But by the same token, if it a real pain to be trying to take a base and have no support from other friendlies because they are more interested in furballing. However, I am not paying their $15/month, so not up to me to tell them how to play.
Honestly, I don't see a good solution to this, from a business point of view. If you make CVs, FHs, etc indestrucable, then I can assure the number of members will drop drastically, which will mean less money for HTC. A move like that in a world of competitive online gaming would pretty much mean and end to AH2. Someone else would step in to fill the void and things would spiral down hill from there. I would love to see something that works for everyone, but don't see it on the horizon.
Just my observations...
<S> Blammo