Maybe I'm a bit dense....
I'm not the smartest of folks at times....
I often have trouble in games I've never played before.
However, moving to AH from only a few scattered other flight sims, the ONLY thing I had to do was read the key mapper and control mapper.
You don't even have to read it all. Just the really basic OBVIOUS stuff.
"Oooh, right, I'll need to know the engine start key! Oh, and the gear key, and guns! Mustn't forget guns!"
I mean, hey, let's be honest, I still coulnd't FLY, but I could get in the plane, rev the engine, roll down the runway and plow into any number of game objects (including the ground).
Maybe I'm dense, but you know what? ANY game I ever get into I read the keymap first. Otherwise wtf are you doing in a game? Pressing W, uparrow (FPS commands, btw). That's not how ya fly a flight sim.
There's an argument to be made for showing folks in bold letters how to get started, but after a certain point... C'mon! Sometimes they're just not going to get it.
So sure, put the "getting started" in bold and in an obvious place, but don't have pop up windows bearing blinking red fonts on rainbow backgrounds using CAPs pointing new players how to get started.
Because if they don't bother to read the bold, they're not going to bother reading the <BLINK> tags.