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Mothers in the workforce
« on: July 29, 2008, 10:48:40 AM »
The issue of working mothers was brought up in another thread so I wanted to expand on it here.

Since the 50s, the trend in this nation has been for women to re-enter the workforce after the start of family life. Maternity leave is standard, but provides no more than a few months of child-care by the mother. After that, more often than not, the mothers are returning to work.

Many will credit this to the social changes of the 60s, many others will credit practicality and need. I tend to agree with the latter.

But has this harmed the fabric of the American home?

Of the levels of problems faced by this nation, I don't see this as one of the inciting factors. So long as the family unit does not fall victim to the common spectres of divorce, infidelity, substance abuse or illness, I think that having both parents earning a living does not degrade family structure. Absentee parenting has long been, and will likely long remain more or less standard in most developed nations. And with modern technology and the ability to very effectively work from home, I think this factor becomes ever more minor in the grand scheme of things.

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Re: Mothers in the workforce
« Reply #1 on: July 29, 2008, 10:52:57 AM »
How can it not be a factor?  You have children who have very little interaction with either parent, little to no guidance.  Why do you think youth crimes are so rampant.  Kids have no role models anymore except for older kids who grew up the same way. 

My wife doesn't work, and unless there is just no way I can make the bills on my own, she won't.  I like my kids having a parent at home instead of a babysitter or daycare.  Plus, those things cost outrageous ammounts here in South Georgia.  Im sure they are expensive everywhere.  At least when I am at work, I know whats going on with my kids.
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Re: Mothers in the workforce
« Reply #2 on: July 29, 2008, 10:58:12 AM »
My mother taught elementary school for 40 years. She only took jobs in the schools we attended, and only after we were old enough to be in school. Worked out well.

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Re: Mothers in the workforce
« Reply #3 on: July 29, 2008, 10:58:17 AM »
Sorry Gaidin, but I grew up with both parents working--as did everybody I grew up with. We're approaching our 30s now and last I heard, not one of them has been in trouble with the law. Not one.

Childcare usually took the form of friends and family. After the age of 10, pretty much on my own after school, until around 6 or 7 pm. Some trouble, as most boys get into, but nothing beyond the standard... Same for all of my friends.

Granted, we lived in a setting where crime was rare to begin with, but the notion that children who are not watched specifically by one of the two people whose genes they carry are destined for lives of crime seems like a leap to me.

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Re: Mothers in the workforce
« Reply #4 on: July 29, 2008, 11:05:32 AM »
The issue of working mothers was brought up in another thread so I wanted to expand on it here.

Since the 50s, the trend in this nation has been for women to re-enter the workforce after the start of family life. Maternity leave is standard, but provides no more than a few months of child-care by the mother. After that, more often than not, the mothers are returning to work.

Many will credit this to the social changes of the 60s, many others will credit practicality and need. I tend to agree with the latter.

But has this harmed the fabric of the American home?

Of the levels of problems faced by this nation, I don't see this as one of the inciting factors. So long as the family unit does not fall victim to the common spectres of divorce, infidelity, substance abuse or illness, I think that having both parents earning a living does not degrade family structure. Absentee parenting has long been, and will likely long remain more or less standard in most developed nations. And with modern technology and the ability to very effectively work from home, I think this factor becomes ever more minor in the grand scheme of things.

Thoughts?

My wife wanting a 'career' AND a kid destroyed the marrige; nearly destroyed the kid. Financially; we did fine.. every advantage. However, my kid was abused in a day care setting; the trauma and emotional damage nearly destroyed all our lives.

Having a child IS a 'career'. Mom's should be home... households should have the 'homeschool' option.

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Re: Mothers in the workforce
« Reply #5 on: July 29, 2008, 11:28:24 AM »
My mother worked; I was a latch key kid from late elementary school on.  I had three older siblings, but they did after school activities often.  I wasn't a bad kid, but it's a wonder I didn't burn the house down when no one else was home.  My siblings and I would have been better off without such a big house, a motor home and other fancy things.

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Re: Mothers in the workforce
« Reply #6 on: July 29, 2008, 11:32:12 AM »
Sorry Gaidin, but I grew up with both parents working--as did everybody I grew up with. We're approaching our 30s now and last I heard, not one of them has been in trouble with the law. Not one.

Childcare usually took the form of friends and family. After the age of 10, pretty much on my own after school, until around 6 or 7 pm. Some trouble, as most boys get into, but nothing beyond the standard... Same for all of my friends.

Granted, we lived in a setting where crime was rare to begin with, but the notion that children who are not watched specifically by one of the two people whose genes they carry are destined for lives of crime seems like a leap to me.


It's not that kids of two working parents are doomed; it's that most moms do a considerably better job of raising kids than most day care settings.

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Re: Mothers in the workforce
« Reply #7 on: July 29, 2008, 11:39:06 AM »
I quit working when we had our 3rd.  Stayed at home for almost 10 years... went back to work about a year before TxDad retired... to make sure that the transition would be smooth from his military career to a civilian job/moving the family, etc.  Worked for a few years, then went back to the home. 

Without a doubt, our entire family has benefited from the time which I've spent at home... The entire pace of life is different.  There's no franticness or rush to do anything... it's all planned, scheduled, orderly, etc. When I'm at home, there's family dinners at the table each day (even if it's only sandwiches... it's still together at the table).  Even during summer hours, everything is pretty routine.  The most important thing that we've got tons of time for is individual time with each of the kids... which for them is just tops. Don't get much better than that.  :aok

The few years I was working, we tried fitting our entire family life in between the hours of 6 pm - 9 pm.  It sucked for everyone.  You can't go from smooth to crammed without a great deal of discomfort.

As for the bigger picture... hadn't thought about it too much.
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Re: Mothers in the workforce
« Reply #8 on: July 29, 2008, 11:40:51 AM »
It's not that kids of two working parents are doomed; it's that most moms do a considerably better job of raising kids than most day care settings.

Well, like I said earlier, there is a benefit to a large circle of friends and extended family. I understand that not everyone has such a thing available to them, but it definitely worked for me. Never saw the inside of a daycare.

I will agree that mothers do a better job, however. Basic human psychology that they would have more vested interest in the well-being of a child than some meagerly-compensated stranger. This, however, is hardly enough to bring down a nation. The original presumption that latch-key kids were a linchpin to this nation's downfall seems far-fetched to me when so many other things carry equal if not more weight.

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Re: Mothers in the workforce
« Reply #9 on: July 29, 2008, 11:57:10 AM »
How can it not be a factor?  You have children who have very little interaction with either parent, little to no guidance.  Why do you think youth crimes are so rampant.  Kids have no role models anymore except for older kids who grew up the same way. 

My wife doesn't work, and unless there is just no way I can make the bills on my own, she won't.  I like my kids having a parent at home instead of a babysitter or daycare.  Plus, those things cost outrageous ammounts here in South Georgia.  Im sure they are expensive everywhere.  At least when I am at work, I know whats going on with my kids.


actually, your wife does work......raising your kids correctly.

god bless you both for being as smart as you are to do that.....others shoudl follow your example.
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Re: Mothers in the workforce
« Reply #10 on: July 29, 2008, 12:10:48 PM »
The original presumption that latch-key kids were a linchpin to this nation's downfall seems far-fetched to me when so many other things carry equal if not more weight.

Possibly.... A responsible father present, a stable relationship between both parents, the school enviornment.. all have impact. I remain convinced that being a Mom in our society IS a career in itself.
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Re: Mothers in the workforce
« Reply #11 on: July 29, 2008, 12:48:16 PM »
The issue of working mothers was brought up in another thread so I wanted to expand on it here.

Since the 50s, the trend in this nation has been for women to re-enter the workforce after the start of family life. Maternity leave is standard, but provides no more than a few months of child-care by the mother. After that, more often than not, the mothers are returning to work.

Many will credit this to the social changes of the 60s, many others will credit practicality and need. I tend to agree with the latter.

But has this harmed the fabric of the American home?

Of the levels of problems faced by this nation, I don't see this as one of the inciting factors. So long as the family unit does not fall victim to the common spectres of divorce, infidelity, substance abuse or illness, I think that having both parents earning a living does not degrade family structure. Absentee parenting has long been, and will likely long remain more or less standard in most developed nations. And with modern technology and the ability to very effectively work from home, I think this factor becomes ever more minor in the grand scheme of things.

Thoughts?
The effect varies from home to home. But it is hardly the cause of the downfall of America's youth.

Dad can be absent occasionally but Mom she's got a full time job.  And if she takes a outside job the home suffers. :salute

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Re: Mothers in the workforce
« Reply #12 on: July 29, 2008, 01:25:12 PM »
how many of you lads would be willing to take up the role of stay-home-dad. Let go of 10 years of your life and careers, etc.
Yes, it's important, but somehow rarely one sees man volunteering for this post. Yet usually it is a men who argue that women should do it..

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Re: Mothers in the workforce
« Reply #13 on: July 29, 2008, 01:39:47 PM »
how many of you lads would be willing to take up the role of stay-home-dad. Let go of 10 years of your life and careers, etc.
Yes, it's important, but somehow rarely one sees man volunteering for this post. Yet usually it is a men who argue that women should do it..


I would do it in a second if it was an option.

Sounds like Eskimo and I had similer childhoods lol, latch key from about 10 on and a firebug lol.

I got away with TONS more then I ever could have with a stay at home parent.

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Re: Mothers in the workforce
« Reply #14 on: July 29, 2008, 01:42:37 PM »
how many of you lads would be willing to take up the role of stay-home-dad. Let go of 10 years of your life and careers, etc.
Yes, it's important, but somehow rarely one sees man volunteering for this post. Yet usually it is a men who argue that women should do it..

Women aren't meant to be slighted by that desire for them to stay home, though.  Essentially, you take the place where you're going to be the most effective for good.  Any time I've seen any chauvinistic tendencies regarding women who stay home to take care of the family have been from outsiders... not from within the families.


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